Monday, March 28, 2016

This is your child

See this? This is your child.


You have this wonderful person, this piece of you,  for eighteen years. During that time you cherish it, protect it, build all sorts of fun and loving memories with it. You don't want to let it go but that's it's nature...

You wind it up, point it in the right direction and then let it go, watching them as they race across the horizon.

For eighteen years you have your most cherished possession. You take pride in teaching them all that you believe is good and right in the world but you know that you won't be there to guide and protect them all their lives so you encourage them to become independant and make their own decisions. As a teenager you have the right and responsibity to correct them if you think they are going wrong but once they reach adulthood you have to let them go. In modern society we say that eighteen is the cut off point although some mature earlier and sadly some never reach maturity at all.


When that time comes, you have to stop correcting them, you have to accept that they are freshly minted adults, accept their independence and hopefully forge a new relationship with them as friends. You no longer have the right to correct things that you might perceive as wrong, the best thing that you can hope for is that they will reflect the respect that you show them and build on the start that you have given them.

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